Michael Loredo

To Be Happy You Must Love Yourself But First Hate Yourself.



Posted: Tuesday, August 05, 2008

by Michael Loredo

I hate you. I hate the way you look, I hate the way your belly stcks out after you eat, I hate the way your head needs a haircut and you look fatter because of it, I hate the way you live, and I just cannot stand by and watch you give up on yourself!

That was my best friend talking to me. Sure it sounded like my enemy, but the truth is, I am my best friend. It is only sheer logic to think of ourselves as our own best friend. We talk smack to ourselves. we laugh to ourselves as if two friends sharing a joke. we critisize ourselves as friends often do. we motivate ourselves as a buddy might do. aware or unaware we are always evaluating ourselves and getting constant feedback (from ourselves) as if bouncing off a mirror. We ourselves know our most intimate secrets and what nots, just as a best friend would.

Point taken? Having said that, i will tell you about my experience today. I woke up with a god awful taste in my mouth and it was as if a dragon crawled in my mouth and died. So here I am staring at the mirror right before i do my morning hygenic routine, and i realize how much i have neglected to shave, cut my hair, and among other things keep up my appearance. I was so disscusted with myself, i let myself have it. I stood in the mirror and analyized every thing i loathed about my self and commenced to regain control of myself. I cut my own hair since i am somewhat a barber and a pretty good one at that. the second thing i did was shave and edged up the sides of my hairlines which is actually very popullar nowadays in barbershops. After having done that, I removed the decaying dragon from my cave, I mean mouth, and brushed, gargled, even chugged some water. Least but not last, I showered and put on this pretty decent running outfit only I was not yet planning to go running just yet. I was hungry and wanted to take my mother out to eat first. So I ate and did some shopping and got home to put my groceries away (healthy stuff). I am not going to lie to you, I only ran about a mile and walked a mile but I was drenched in sweat because it was a hundred degrees outside. After taking a shower and getting dressed again I noticed that i had lost alot of bodily fluids and I felt lighter and looked better especially with my complexion, on the plus side I even got a little tanned, I felt almost human again for taking my mother out to eat, and most importantly I love myself again.

To think that I hated my self this morning was very necessary because my reaction induced a favorable outcome. Now when i look in the mirror i can say: I love you, nice buzz, check out that tan, that new shirt will fit you now pal, have you been working out? I guess it might be a love hate kinda thing.

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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)
» left by Susan Thom
 3 years 270 days ago.
178 fans.
hi michael,
 
this was a well written, interesting article, and one i agree with as far as taking yourself where you want to go, by simply talking to yourself and pumping yourself up. thanks for sharing, and i hope you continue writing,
 
best regards,
 
sue thom
» left by 3 years 259 days ago.
thank you Susan, it means alot
» left by Mark Parsec
 3 years 259 days ago.
283 fans.
Good article, Michael. More people must learn how to love themselves. Keep up the writing.
» left by Teresa Ortiz
 3 years 259 days ago.
186 fans.
Hi Michael, interesting thoughts, I never considered myself my best friend. But you make some great points. Thanks for the reminder to take the time to care for ourselves. I am looking foward to reading more from you. Have a blessed day! Teresa
» left by Katie 3 years 162 days ago.
This article is great and so true. I have just realized the same thing and came across your article in google. I think too many people think they have these complicated goals and look at them as impossible to achieve and constantly put themselves down. People should be more accepting of themselves and what they can achieve.
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